How to stop stress when you’re wedding planning

Whether you’re the first of your friends to tie the knot, or taking a trip down the aisle for a second time, wedding planning is an enormous undertaking – one that can threaten the Zen-like calm of even the most chillaxed yogi. With a gazillion things to plan, and the pressure of arranging the perfect day, it’s only natural that stress creeps in at some point in the process.

As a couple who’ve been there and brought the T-shirt we know EXACTLY what it’s like planning your big day down to the detail. Particularly when you’re trying to hold down a day job, a social life, and juggle other commitments. So, we’ve pulled together this little post featuring our best advice for keeping calm in the midst of wedding planning. Whether you’re just starting out in the process, or in the final furlong before the big day dawns, here’s how to keep stress at arm’s length

DON’T OVERSTRETCH YOURSELF FINANCIALLY

Undoubtedly, one of the biggest causes of stress when it comes to weddings is the cost – and it’s not difficult to see why. From feeding your guests, to hiring the perfect venue, not to mention purchasing THAT dress. Yep, when it comes to your big day, the numbers soon start stacking up.

Sadly, a little spend is inevitable when it comes to getting married. But there’s no hard and fast rule for what you MUST pay out. Set yourself a budget that’s comfortably within your financial reach and STICK TO IT. That way you’ll easily keep on top of the costs and sidestep any nasty surprises.

And don’t beat yourself up if you have to make concessions along the way. Trust us, every couple getting married has to make compromises and sacrifices somewhere. So be kind to yourself. What matters is the two of you committing to each other for life. That’s more important than anything material.

MAKE SOME YOU TIME

Planning a wedding can easily start to take over your life if you let it, so it’s important to set yourself some boundaries and get a little distance from the process from time to time. Not only will this help you stay focussed and engaged in the planning but it’s also vital for your own mental wellbeing – and there’s nothing more important in this world than taking care of your health.

So, whether you treat yourself to a relaxing aromatherapy massage, enjoy a date night out with your other half, catch up with your best girls for a cocktail, or just indulge in a little Netflix and chill with your favourite takeaway, it’s important to have some downtime away from wedding planning. So be sure to invest some quality time back into the everyday things you both enjoy as a couple – and as individuals too. It will help you stay sane and remind you of all the wonderful things in life you have to be grateful for (besides getting married to the one you love).

CELEBRATE THE SMALL WINS

When you’re in wedding planning mode it can be easy to focus your energies on everything there is “to do” and spend little (or no) time congratulating yourself for the progress you’ve made so far.

Planning a wedding is a lengthy and multi-layered process. There are so many aspects that come into play, and it can easily get overwhelming if you’re constantly *reminding (*translation: berating) yourself for what you haven’t gotten around to yet.

Do yourself a massive favour and take a second to reflect whenever you tick a task off your list. Even if it’s something as seemingly small and incidental as ordering a stationery sample or thinking up a theme for your table names, it’s so important to continually acknowledge and congratulate yourself on the wins you make as you move through the planning process.

RESIST THE URGE TO BE A HERO

Just because you’re the couple getting married doesn’t mean you have to take on the sole responsibility for planning your wedding day alone. One way to cut back on stress is to lean on friends and family for support. Whether it’s helping you map out the bigger details, or canvas opinion when you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’ll be amazed how many people will jump at the chance to help you organise elements of your big day.

So make use of those people in your life who love and care for you and take of the wedding planning burden off your shoulders. Even if you just delegate out small tasks to begin with, every little adds up. You can even reach out to your social networks for recommendations and connect with other engaged couples in online wedding forums for advice. So don’t hold back - be like the Beatles and ask for a little help from your friends

At Tash & Will wedding photography, we’re a husband and wife team who work together to help other couples capture what’s unique, individual, and authentic about their wedding day. If you like the look of what we do (and the sound of us) we’d love to hear from you. We’re already taking bookings for 2022 weddings so if you’re in the process of planning your big day – whether on the south coast or further afield (we do international weddings too) you can get in touch via our contact form, or drop us an email at tashandwillnbaggs@gmail.com and we’ll arrange a time to get together.